“Being Fruitful Without Multiplying adds an important voice to the ongoing discussions regarding women’s reproductive choices. The authors have impressively gathered stories from women around the world of all age groups who each share their own intimate reasons for choosing not to procreate. The collection celebrates the opportunities its contributors have gained from their decisions and illustrates the many affirming roles that children can nevertheless play in their lives. This is a terrific resource for expanding our perspectives on parenting, reproduction and the shifting economic and social realities in women’s lives. I recommend it to academic and nonacademic audiences alike.”

 — Maythee Rojas, Ph.D. 
     Associate Professor of Women’s Gender & Sexuality Studies at 
     California State University, Long Beach

“To abandon motherhood is a decision not fully accepted by much of society. “Being Fruitful Without Multiplying” is a collection of memoir and thoughts on the idea of going child-free in one’s life, as many women come out and discuss their decision to not choose motherhood, and the other ways they have chosen to impact the world, through step-parenthood, adoption, or other ideas. As the women, and a few men as well present their ideas, “Being Fruitful Without Multiplying” is well worth considering for those who want to understand the child-free lifestyle.”

 — James A. Cox, Editor-in-Chief
      Midwest Book Review

“Women have made enormous progress in the past hundred years. It’s accepted now that women can, of course vote. Of course they can do well in higher education. Of course they can hold a job! But there’s an area where women still shoulder an enormous stereotype that starts from the moment they are born. They are, by and large, expected to produce children. This isn’t a new challenge, of course. Back in Roman and medieval days, a woman could be divorced and abandoned if she didn’t produce children for her husband. That was her main task in life. You’d think we’d be beyond that in our modern age. However, there are still large segments of the population who feel this is the main task for any woman to achieve. Young girls are told, when they act up, that “someday you’ll have children of your own.” It’s not an IF. It’s simply a WHEN. The moment couples marry they’re often hounded by the “next” question – “so, when will you have kids?” Again, a WHEN and not an IF. It’s assumed this is the way things are. Being Fruitful Without Multiplying is a wonderful counterpoint to this pervasive stance. Women from around the world and all stages of life chime in with their reasons and thoughts on not bearing children. There are young woman who are feeling the pressure from family and friends. Older women who are at peace with how they’ve lived their life. There are travelers and scientists, writers and artists. Women whose partners wholeheartedly agreed and women who faced resistance. I love the diversity presented here, and I love the authenticity. These women know they don’t have all the answers for others out there – but they know what was right for THEM. They spent time considering their options, pondering their strengths, and making a decision that was best for their life path. They benefit the world and their communities in so many ways. Having a child of their own just wasn’t a part of that process. I laud this book and think it’s one every person should read – whether you have a child of your own or not. If you don’t have a child, it will give you insight into others who are in the same situation and the challenges and blessings they have as a result. If you did bear a child, it will help you understand those around you who have made a different choice. The more we can understand each other, and the more we can understand the myriad of options available in our world, the better we can bring compassion and support into each other’s lives.”

— Lisa Shea
     Award Winning Author, and Owner of
     BellaOnline – The Voice of Women

Being Fruitful without Multiplying is an easy reading book offering stories of the lives of three woman, and vignettes from many more, about the important topic of women choosing to be “childless” or “childfree”. The book discusses numerous reasons why so many women these days make such a choice, including financial considerations, lack of maternal desire, fear of pregnancy, concern over body image changes, career priorities, childhood influences, and numerous psychological explanations. The fact is that all human behavior makes sense if only one understands the dynamics that drive and shape it. Sometimes those forces are consciously understood and sometimes they are just below the surface, waiting to be revealed. Each of the primary stories in this book, and many of the others, one way or another address forces that ultimately have a psychological origin, whether they realize it or not. Also presented is the array of ambiguities and experiences that childless women undergo in dealing within their families and society more broadly around the decision not to bear children. This is true across numerous nations and cultures irrespective of the advances many women have made in their ability to make such personal decisions as those involving child bearing. Then of course there is also the matter of contributing to the rearing of children without giving them birth, a topic less focally address in this book but increasingly more significant as ever more women make the decision or have the freedom to go childless. This is a read that will be interesting to all women and the men who strive to understand them.”

Glenn Ross Caddy Ph.D., A.B.P.P., F.A.P.A.
     Chairman, Institute of Clinical Psychology
     Mind-Experts International, Fort Lauderdale, Florida 

“It’s important for people to realize that life, purpose and God’s design and plan does go on for those who do not procreate. I believe it is THE plan for a few, as Being Fruitful Without Multiplying so eloquently illustrates, not as a result of what didn’t happen in life, but rather a decision for fullness of purpose and the fulfillment of a plan. And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.  For whom He foreknew, He also predestined….Rom. 8:28-30 NKJV“”

 —  Dr. Lyrica Joy, Bishop
: The International Church for ALL Nations 

“As the Founder of Gateway Women, an organisation for women who are childless by circumstance, I recognise the authenticity of the voices in Being Fruitful Without Multiplying. Public discourse around ‘why’ women don’t have children falls into two very simplistic categories: either the women couldn’t have them or they didn’t want them. Being Fruitful Without Multiplying explodes this reductive view by giving voice to the many different ways that a woman finds herself without children. From choice, circumstance, medical, religious, cultural and societal factors, each woman shares her story of how she has navigated the assumptions and expectations of her family and culture as a woman without children.  The latter half of the book, featuring ‘first person’ narratives from women of all ages and backgrounds brings into printed form what is normally only seen in the safety of anonymous childfree internet forums, and may serve to broaden the simplistic assumptions that are often made about ‘why’ or ‘how’ women remain childless. This book is destined to become a valuable social document for researchers, as well as a friend to culturally and socially isolated childless by choice women. Being Fruitful Without Multiplying is an important work, and I commend the authors for their efforts and honesty in sharing their own stories in such depth, as well as collating so many other voices from around the globe.”

 — Jody Day, Public Relations & Marketing
      Founder: Gateway Women 
      United Kingdom

“Patricia Yvette, Renee Ann, and Janice Lynne have opened their journals and have collaborated to bring us a thoughtful and insightful collection of stories and essays which allow us to explore the diverse lives and experiences of childfree women and men from around the world. The essays featured in Being Fruitful Without Multiplying reflect what I found to be some of the top motives for choosing and embracing a life without biological children-freedom, independence, and quality-of-life -and they serve to validate the experiences and feelings of all who have challenged the assumption of parenthood. I would recommend this book to anyone who has made this choice or is currently childless and wonders “what can I expect if I remain so?””

— Dr. Laura Scott  
     Author of Two Is Enough: A Couple’s Guide to Living Childless by Choice
Director of the Childless by Choice Project

“As a practicing Clinical Mental Health Counselor, I feel that the personal short stories in this book will help countless individuals who have decided not to have children. Many of my clients come into my office with their presenting issue that they have decided not to have children and want to know what is wrong with them. I explain to them that not all people decide to have children for various reasons and there is nothing wrong with their decision.”

— Adam C. Colando, MS
    Clinical Mental Health Counselor

“As someone who struggles deeply with the question of whether or not to have a baby, I found this book to be an insightful and inspiring resource. I quite simply couldn’t put it down! Breaking the entries down by age group was so interesting, because it allowed me to see the progression of how people felt about their decision from their twenties all the way into their fifties. …. But the ones I found most interesting were those that gave me new insights into understanding why I have always felt so different from other women my age who have always known they wanted a baby. …. If you’re looking for insights, trying to decide to have a baby, or have already decided to go Childfree and are just looking for validation or to hear from those who share your experiences, this book is an excellent source of support!”

—Liz Ference
   Blogger of

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